5 Reasons To Throw Out Your Dating Checklist

Even if we don't physically write down the list of requirements for our potential partner, we can't help but imagine this perfect human being sweeping us off our feet someday. We all have our physical preferences, types and selfish and unrealistic requirements about future relationships which could be the reason why you're still single.

I'm not saying that you shouldn't have standards and expectations for the people you date but you should refrain from using in-depth checklists, that will inevitably negatively affect your overall dating lifestyle.

Before you stand firm against your checklist, take these reasons into consideration would ya?

  1. Lists Are Shallow

    The majority of things on lists have to deal with physical appearances regarding your favorite eye color, hair, body type and ethnicity. Just because you're physically attracted to those attributes it doesn't mean you can't have a sexual and emotional connection with someone with completely different features than your “type”. The majority of things on lists have to deal with physical appearances regarding your favorite eye color, hair, body type and ethnicity. Just because you're physically attracted to those attributes it doesn't mean you can't have a sexual and emotional connection with someone with completely different features than your “type”.

    Obviously, there can be some sort of correlation between the people you date if they tend to look similar or acquire distinct personalities, but you shouldn't be closed minded to prospective lovers. Love comes in all shapes and sizes, so make sure you remind yourself that when you start to get worked up over your unchecked off list.

    The right person for you won't lead to check things off of your list because they will have characteristics you never knew you admired, proving how ridiculous the list was all along.

    With that type of list, you're cutting your chances of finding someone in more than half because chances are you won't necessarily fit into their shallow checklist. Dating is so much more than looks and physical attraction because personality and chemistry take a bigger role than you can imagine.

    Everyone is guilty of being shallow at times, especially when searching for a love connection but please do us all a favor and throw that ridiculous checklist in the trash. Take the time to know someone based off of their quirky being, and chances are you'll fall in love with their imperfections instead of demanding perfection.

  2. Lists Are Unrealistic

    Chances are your there are many constraints for someone trying to pursue you whether it's a particular career choice, location or background. Just because may look and sound like the perfect person you want to start a life with, so many more factors come into play for a successful relationship.

    It's hard to leave fantasy land and refrain from romanticizing future relationships, but the sooner you do you'll realize there are so many eligible people out there that you could get along with great.

  3. Lists Lead To Disappointment

    There is no way someone will check off every item on your list without you making some compromises. Also, you don't even know what you are looking for in a significant other until you know all the things you don't like.

    Dating is about being open minded and seeing if your two lives can coincide, not checking off boxes for a person to be deemed worthy to date you. Everyone has imperfections and flaws, but you're supposed to accept them and learn how to deal with them when you're dating, not run from the first thing you don't necessarily like. Odds are you will have characteristics that aren't seen in the brightest of lights, but you wouldn't want someone to write you off for that either.

    Your checklist automatically comes together when you've done your fair share of dating and realize what type of person brings out the best of you. It becomes a feeling rather than a specific set of characteristics that someone must possess for you to take them seriously

  4. Lists Can Hinder

    Some people you can instantaneously write off due to your checklist can be disheartening. There are so many individuals in this world, and you're betting against the odds if you continue to wait around for Mr or Miss Perfect instead of pursuing what feels right.

    Sometimes the best love connections come from the out of ordinary people you start to date on a whim. Opposites attract and if you're waiting around for someone who likes to do the same activities and only common interests you may be waiting quite awhile.

    Plus, if you think about it, your ex probably checked all of those boxes, and look what that relationship got you.

    It's important for you to have differences, leaving space to grow together by sharing experiences and different interests. A successful partnership relies heavily on pushing each other out of comfort zones and positively challenging one another to be the best version of yourself.

  5. Lists Constantly Evolve

    What you may want in a partner may slightly change a little every day. Your experiences and daily interactions change and alter your perspectives on potential partners, which lead to some revisions on your checklist.

    Instead of always updating or making new check lists, just forget that entire concept and embrace all possible connections. People can grow on you and instead of focusing on the attributes you don't like in your relationships, focus on the positive qualities instead



    Ladies and Gents, before you continue your love pursuit, please take all of these checklist flaws into consideration the next time you add another one to the list. No one is perfect, and no one will magically fill in all of these unrealistic lists you've made for them, so it's best to toss them out now.

    Enjoy all that the dating life has to offer because there is a huge possibility you can end up with someone you would have never known you'd be interested in. The universe has a weird way of working out so leave the checklist to the inevitable love the world has to offer.