Unfortunately, the term ghosting is very popular among the dating scene nowadays, not even entirely sure where it even started. But how it came about was due to the lack of communication when the second date rolls around or simply out of nowhere.
One day you're talking to a potential fling and the next thing you know they haven't responded in days, leaving your life in complete anarchy. The days turn into weeks and then months, and you've come to the realization they're completely ignoring you.
If you're confident enough you won't automatically block them from everything but the second they post on social media, it hits you... you've just been ghosted.
There are many ways you can go about this frustrating situation so don't worry; I got you covered.
Once you realize that they're ignoring and avoiding you then try to confront the situation as soon as possible, remaining as calm as possible. There is a slight chance a message didn't go thru or life just got a little hectic, and your conversation was put on the back burner.
The more dramatic and reactive your message is, the likelihood that their response will be similar. If you want to come across calm and collected, just try to get a simple answer as to why they stopped talking to you.
They can either respond like a decent human being or continue to ghost you, which further proves why you need to move on from that fling and pursue someone more mature, who doesn't play such childish games.
There is a lot that can be lost in translation over texting and social media so before you jump ship try talking things out with them before automatically assuming you've been ghosted.
People's lives get very chaotic and busy during the weeks so don't fret if it's only been a couple of days. If someone wants to talk to you, they'll realize they forgot to respond or make an effort at some point shortly.
You have every right to go through the motions of getting flustered, angry and emotional and then only move on. Don't contact them or give the benefit of knowing how upset you are. Stop pursuing someone who won't do the same for you, because nothing is more annoying than wasted time.
Depending on the situation, there are various reasons as to why someone would stop talking to you. Not all of them are as dramatic and negative as you would assume, as some people don't want to come off as desperate, so they tend to play mind games instead.
Especially if someone is gaining feelings fast, they tend to create distance and push people away instead of being upfront with their feelings, and that's where the fear of rejection plays a role.
If you're patient and understanding then you may even wait them out because chances are the second you forget their existence you'll receive a message.
If things are moving too fast, some people don't really know how to react and take in the situation. Some will abort the mission and refrain from pursuing anything that's getting a little too serious. Others will spontaneously realize they aren't interested anymore, so they just cut contact without explaining themselves.
That option is definitely the worst because everyone should understand why things didn't work out instead of leaving it up to one's imagination. Well, all know imagining why things went wrong ends up being way worse than the actual reason.
I'd stop blowing up their phone and give them some space and time then reach out after a few weeks or even months. There is a chance that they were going through some personal issues and needed to figure things out before dragging you into it.
Some people don't know how to communicate and shut down instead of voicing their concerns and worries about continuing a relationship. That shouldn't deter you from contacting them on later in life, especially if you had an amazing connection, to see if there is a chance to rekindle something.
It's easy to be rash about the situation and fall into a full rage. Realizing someone isn't interested in you by ghosting is one of the hardest ways to make a full comeback.
You have everyone's permission to delete, report, and block any social media platform you added them on to ensure you have absolutely nothing to do with them anymore. Especially if they did something horrible like beginning to ghost you in the midst of a sexting session. Being able to witness them continue using their phone without the courtesy to respond to you or make an effort stings a little more each post.
I know it's hard not to take it personally, but you have to be realistic and open minded when you're dating. Everyone has their own unique story and experiences that have made them into the person they are, so it's best to let it roll off your shoulders.
How someone reacts and treats you doesn't reflect you but how they feel about themselves. If they have a hard time communicating and maintaining contact with you, just take it for what it is and learn not to take that person so seriously.
I know it's easier said than done but that doesn't mean that it's impossible to do. It's hard not to get worked up and wrapped up in the whole dating lifestyle. Everyone fears rejection in some sense, but I guarantee you have rejected people on more than one occasion without thinking twice of the aftermath.
Not everyone is going to adore you and find you attractive; that's something you have to come to terms with once you start dating around.
All in all, ghosting is a horrible fad that needs to go out of style real soon. There is nothing attractive about incompetent communicators when everyone is glued to their damn phones.