Butt Sex: Your Complete Guide to Epic Anal Orgasims in 13 Euphoric Steps

Sliding into fifth base. Doing it greek style. Sodomy. Slipping through the back door. Playing the rusty trombone. Or simply, butt sex.

Anal has a lot of hilarious nicknames, however, none of which help to debunk the stereotype that anal isn't fun for anyone on the receiving end. In reality, both men and women have a whole lot of nerve endings in their anus. Through anal, you can actually stimulate the elusive female g-spot, and the seldom talked about male p-spot (otherwise known as prostate).

The proposition to try anal tends to strike fear into many rears, butt it really shouldn't be that scary. If you follow these 13 steps, you can be sure that there are anal orgasms in your future.

  1. Don't allow yourself to be pressured into it

    While both men and women alike fantasize about doing anal, any inhibitions you may have about giving this sex act a try are valid. I'm personally the try-anything-once type, but if you're not then you might need to do a little more thinking and communicating with your partner about doing anal. Especially with all the negative talk surrounding anal, you might feel yourself feeling particularly apprehensive. And this is totally normal!

    If you have a partner, who is urging you to try it talk over your concerns with them and don't let them make your decision for you. If you feel pressured into it at all, that's probably a good sign that you should both not try anal and that you might need to have a conversation with your partner about boundaries.

    However, if you are with someone you trust and you have talked it over then you are posed for butt sex-ess.

  2. Do your research

    If you're reading this, you probably have already started your rectum centered research. But your research shouldn't be limited to listicles! Learning should be fun, so I encourage you to watch some porn! But I don't mean Brazzers.

    I urge you to watch the kind of porn that is made ethically and doesn't feature men jackhammering away at some poor woman's orifices. Kink.com even has entire videos on their Kink University page that walks you through anal, analingus, and sex acts of the like.

    If you want to expand your research to include some accredited sources Sexplainations - if you've read any of my other articles you'll know this is my FAVORITE sex/relationship resource - has great videos about anal, preparing for anal, butthole maintence, and basically anything else you can think of regarding sex and relationships.

  3. There are a few things you should know about condoms

    Even if you're in a committed relationship with your partner, I highly recommend the use of condoms. For the obvious reason to protect against STI's - as the tissue in the anus is extremely sensitive and you're more likely to contract an STI anally than vaginally - and for the less obvious reason: things get messy.

    If you're worried about feeling cleanly throughout your anal experience, then a condom will help get you there. You'll have less cleanup to worry about and can be sure you're protecting yourself against infection.

  4. LUBE. Use it. Use alot of it

    Let's talk about lube! This slippery substance is one of the chief keys to any kind of sexual success. Want to have good vaginal sex? Lube. Want to have some steamy shower sex? Lube. Anal? You guessed it, lube!

    When it comes to anal lube is extremely necessary. In my opinion, there is no such thing as too much when it comes to butt sex. A butt is unlike a vagina in that it doesn't produce its own lubrication, that's where you and your giant bottle of lube come in.

    I highly recommend a silicone lube, like Wet Platinum, or a very thick water-based lube when you're doin' it in the butt. These lubes will not dissipate nearly as quickly as water-based lube and won't deteriorate condoms like oil based lubes.

    While oil-based lubes might seem like a decent option if you're having unprotected anal, I would steer clear unless you're using natural oils such as coconut oil as they're better for the body.

  5. Enemas aren't nessisary

    Giving yourself an enema is a process of cleaning out your rectum with water or a saline solution as to reduce the likelihood that things will get... messy.

    While a lot of people think this a vital step to having a good anal experience, it isn't.

    If you think that giving yourself an enema will put yourself at ease, then do it. If the idea of an enema is more anxiety-inducing than anal, don't do it. There are other ways to make sure doing anal is as clean as it can possibly be.

  6. Pay attention to your digestion

    One way you should prepare yourself for anal exploration is by paying attention to how different foods affect your digestion and planning accordingly.

    For instance, if dairy upsets your stomach you shouldn't eat dairy before you plan on having anal or plan on having anal if you've eaten a bunch of cheese earlier that day.

    By paying attention to the rhythm of your bowels, you will feel more at ease when it comes to that time when you do decide to explore the back door.

  7. Don't start with P in A penetration

    Anal is not something you just do. You definitely need to work up to full on anal sex. You need to both work yourself up over the course of several encounters and with foreplay before you attempt penetration.

    So start small with a finger. You want to make sure you get used to the feeling of having something in your butt before you graduate to anything bigger or more girthy. Work your way up by adding more digits as you get more comfortable.

    Here is where you should graduate to toys. Butt plugs are great for getting used to the feeling of something bigger than a finger; you can usually buy sets of three which come in varying lengths and girths to "train" your butt. I would also recommend this as a crucial step in foreplay, as you can get comfortable and - for lack of a less lurid phrase - stretched out.

    Toys are the next step. Invest in some sort of phallic toy that is meant for anal play. You can usually get glass or metal wands on Amazon that are pretty high quality and safe for your body. Use the toy you have to get used to the in-and-out sensation before your partner penetrates you.

    After you are properly warmed up and comfortable with the different sensations that come with anal, you are ready for some P in A action.

  8. Cross over is a huge no-no

    When you are having anal, there might be the urge to switch back to vaginal sex to keep things fresh. This is okay, however, must bear in mind that you need to change condoms before switching back to vaginal sex.

    It's extremely unhealthy to put something in your vagina that has been in your rectum as there are harmful bacteria in your anal cavity that can cause serious vaginal infections. Double dipping should be taken seriously as it's one of those things you must never do in bed, like ever.

    So make sure when you're having sex that anything that has been in your butt has been disinfected before it goes anywhere near your vulva. To put it simply: for the same reason you wipe front to back, you change condoms before switching from anal to vaginal sex.

  9. If you're jackhammaring, you're doing it wrong

    Here is where porn has done us dirty. You might have the preconceived notion from watching way too much poorly produced porn that a butt can handle the same amount of penial force as a vagina.

    With practice, you might be able to handle some rigorous pounding in the back door, if you are a beginner you should be taking things extremely slow. The lining of the anal cavity is much more fragile than the vagina, so be kind to the booty by keeping the tempo slow and sensual.

  10. Laying on your stomach and doggy style are the best positions for beginners

    Before you even think about getting acrobatic with your anal, you need to start with the beginner stuff. It's crucial that you walk before you run.

    Both of these positions are easily the most comfortable for being on the receiving end of anal. It gives your partner optimal access to the back door; it also allows you to adjust the angle by arching your back more or less to find whatever is more comfortable.

    Like newly deflowered virgins steadily grow tired of missionary, once you have a little experience under your belt you can go about experimenting with positions.

  11. Communication is key

    When you're having sex communication is already extremely important, when you're doing anal for the first time - or when you're doing it right for the first time - communication just becomes that much more vital to the experience.

    Make sure you are communicating with your partner about how you're feeling throughout. If it hurts, don't just bite the pillow and suffer through it! Tell your partner to slow down, adjust positions, or stop. Anal isn't just about male pleasure, if you do it right, it can feel pretty gosh darn good on the receiving end.

  12. Multitasking is key to orgasm

    When it comes to cumming, anal stimulation alone often won't get the job done. Make sure that you and your partner are multitasking while banging.

    If he isn't taking the initiative to reach around for a little clitoral stimulation, do it yourself. Make sure you're touching each other, breathing deeply, and making sex noises like you would if you were having regular-ol-vanilla-sex. Just because you're doing anal doesn't change the rules, make sure you both are doing what you would normally do to maximize the other's pleasure.

    Another key to cumming is to change it up. Take breaks from penetration to switch positions, kiss or go down on one another. If you need a break or if he needs some time to re-cooperate for round-two, get in on some shocker action. Or make use of the toys you have hidden in your underwear drawer. Don't be afraid to switch it up with a toy or throw a vibrator into the mix after you get comfortable with doin' it in the butt.

  13. Try it once or twice, but if you don't like it don't do it again.

    Anal is not for everyone. While it might take a couple tries to have a successful anal adventure, if you try it a few times and it still doesn't feel right, don't do it again!

    If it's not your cup of tea, then it's not your cup of tea, and you shouldn't force yourself to try it again for anyone's sake. Your partner shouldn't pressure you into it and if it just doesn't feel good for you abandon any personal desire to conquer your butt.