While the things you are looking for in a girl may vary from guy to guy, the traits that make a girl a keeper remains the same. Far too often in the dating world, men begin dating (what they think to be) a very nice girl, but before sooner or later, he finds out she's quite the opposite.
Whether she turns out crazy, mean, depressing, needy or all-around psychotic, he could have avoided this predicament by using the checklist below.
If you're interested in a girl and aren't sure whether she's girlfriend material, use the list below to check off these "keeper" qualities and make sure she's worth it.
A very common problem with couples is that sooner or later, they become a package deal. Either it means that they go everywhere together, or they can't go anywhere without each other.
It is very important that you not only maintain your independence, but that your girlfriend/soon-to-be girlfriend respects it. It is also very important that she possesses her own sense of independence as well and that you respect it. A healthy relationship starts with some breathing room; nothing can ignite if everything is smothered.
So continue to have poker night with the boys, and give her a big hug and kiss goodbye as she leaves for girls' night out because a girl who respects your independence and also has her own is certainly a keeper.
One of the best indicators of whether your girl is a keeper or not is how she interacts with your friends. Your friends are typically the closest people to you, those who know things about you that no one should, and they'll be able to tell whether this girl is for you or not.
If a girl not only gets along with your friends, but they give you the go-ahead and their stamp of approval...well then she's a keeper. While it is also vital that she gets along with your family as well, your friends are usually the first step and more of an indicator, since they're probably closer in age and have more in common than she would with your parents.
So if your girl can jump right in with the old gang and have inside jokes with your friends after only a few hangouts, well, she's a keeper.
We've all had a friend who was in the type of relationship--or been in one ourselves--where they turn into a completely different person. Most of the time, the person they turn into is someone their new girlfriend's desired them to be. Most of the time, it was the girlfriend's doing, slowly but surely. It may have started with a new style of shirt that he'd never worn, then, sooner or later, he's dressing exactly like the kids he was making fun of only a few months ago.
I'll tell you right now: a girl who tries to change you, for whatever reason, is not a keeper. If you're a recovering alcoholic and she's trying to change your habits and ways, well that's a totally different story and not usually the case, but she'd be a keeper in that instance. But if you're just a regular dude and some girl is trying to change your style, or habits, or anything of that sort, well, she's not a keeper. She's a keeper if she understands people don't change so it's useless trying to mold someone into what you want them to be.
A keeper is a girl who loves you for exactly who you are, and that's what interested her in the first place. If your girl not only embraces who you are, but encourages you each day to grow, not change, then she's a keeper.
We were all born individuals, meaning it is very important that everyone possess their own dreams and ambitions, even more so in a relationship. While it is great when a girl is not only interested in your goals, but motivates and supports you as well, it isn't so great when your goals and ambitions also become hers.
Maybe you dream of becoming a Radio DJ, so you apply for an internship at the local radio station. Upon hearing this, your girl then also decides to apply. That's pretty cute, right? Actually, no, it's not pretty cute. This is usually a clear sign that she's a clinger and probably a crazy girl. Before you know it, your girl is getting the call saying she got the internship and within months she's the local Radio star.
It is important that she has her own ambitions she's working for, no matter the case. As long as she is working towards something--whether it be her degree, a club or organization she's in, or merely a hobby--and strives to get better for one reason or another, she's a healthy-minded girl and a keeper.
We all know it's inevitable; every relationship involves fighting once in a while. But it's all about how, and why, you fight that makes all the difference.
Girls tend to create drama--it's a known, universal "fact." While there are some girlfriends who love to fight simply because, there are others who wish to avoid any arguments and simply resolve the manner like a mature adult (get yourself one of those girls.)
If your girl--when fighting--does not yell at you, hit you, belittle you or wrongfully accuse you, and instead calmly explains herself, asks questions, and expresses how she is feeling and why, then she is a keeper alright. A girl who acts this way while upset demonstrates so many other traits that make her keeper. It shows that she is mature enough to keep her cool and understand that there are always two sides to a story. Most importantly, it shows that she doesn't want to fight just to fight, but she'd rather get to the bottom of the story, know all the facts and then act accordingly.
If fighting with your girl is more of a tearful and passionate argument where you're both working to see eye-to-eye, then you've got yourself a keeper. But remember, gentlemen, this means you must act in the same accordance while fighting if you wish to be deemed a "keeper" as well, because we all know how easy it is for us guys to lose our temper and raise our voice.
Nothing is more important in a relationship than having fun together. If you don't have fun while together, then what's the point of being together? One of the greatest feelings I've experienced in my young life is the sensation of dating someone whom you love every second spent with them because it is so much fun.
Whether you're out at dinner, doing homework at the library or merely sitting on the couch watching a movie, if you find yourself happy as long as she's with you, then you've got yourself a keeper. Every little act of going somewhere or doing something will turn into a mini adventure, and you'll find yourself not dreading the post office or doing laundry anymore.
Get yourself a girl who makes it hard to say goodbye every time--that's when you know you have a keeper.
I don't know it is, but something about a girl who not only drinks beer, but also knows exactly what kind she's ordering really gets my blood flowing. The more I think about it, I don't know if I'm extremely turned on by girls who drink beer, or just extremely turned off by those who don't.
If your girl can walk up to the counter and order a nice IPA from one of local craft breweries, then come back to the table and shoot some shit with the boys, well goddamn, you've got yourself a keeper. I'm not saying she has to put 'em down like the boys, but if she can merely pour from the same pitcher and hold her own, she's one worth keeping around for a while.