Sex with your partner is great; it really is, but, it's getting kind of repetitive, isn't it? You have nothing to complain about, and they're not doing anything wrong, you're merely looking for something...different, out of the ordinary, not the usual. If you find that's the case for you, then welcome and glad you found your way.
You see, there are multiple different types of sex-- from dirty and rough to quick and impersonal to romantic and passionate. Some situations call for one -- like drunk sex is typically dirty and rough -- while sometimes your desires call for one in particular.
If you find yourself day-dreaming about a candle-lit room illuminating you and your lover's naked bodies as soft, deep music plays in the background, then it seems you are craving something romantic and passionate. Which means this article is exactly what you're looking for and you most likely didn't just stumble upon it.
In order to create a romantic and sensual night of love-making for you and your special someone, read this article and discover 8 easy steps to create a night that will get your underwear wet just thinking about.
The. Vibe. Is. Everything.
With any situation, especially a romantic and sexually charged one, the vibe and atmosphere are key deciding factors in whether things go as planned or not. With that being said, make sure to set a romantic and dreamlike atmosphere around the house and bedroom, and set it early.
A very effective way to do this is by setting out candles and use their dancing, soft light instead of any artificial light within the home. If you know your special someone will be arriving home soon, capitalize on the opportunity by setting out the candles before they arrive. Not only will they be frothing at the gash from such a romantic and sensual surprise, but it will set the mood upon the very second they walk through the door -- and it could be exactly what they need after a long day.
If you and your partner are both already home and things have already been kicked into gear, then take a moment before things really get rolling and dim the lights or light a few candles, put on some relaxing music and maybe both slip into something comfortable. It is better to take a second to set a mood early on before things get real heated, instead of waiting till later and killing one vibe in order to set a romantic one, possibly killing any vibe whatsoever.
The vibe being set early determines how the rest of the evening will unfold and a romantic vibe is a favorable one to set. Along with candles, you could also whip out some wine to help loosen the vibe as well. Candles, music, wine, maybe even some flowers if you really plan ahead; no matter your angle of attack, just remember to set the mood early and to keep it flowing for the remainder of the night.
Once the vibe has been set and things have evolved into an "all hands on deck" type of situation, try taking things to the next level while also slowing them down with the use of some oil. Whether it be massage oil, lotion or even candle wax, lather your hands up -- or tease your partner by slowing dripping it on their back -- and give them a full body special; with an eventual happy ending, of course.
You don't need to be an expert on pressure points or a master masseuse, simply rub your hands along your lover's body and I guarantee they'll be lying there eyes closed with goose bumps and occasionally squirming. Be firm, be gentle; use your finger tips, use your palms; rub deeply, tickle lightly -- mix things up and mix them up in the right spots.
Make sure to keep the candles lit, the music jammin', and the wine flowing. The combination of all that, on top of the massage, well let's just say they'll be more than ready for that happy ending.
If you chose to perform like a true boss and went the massage route, then things have already heated up and you've been very hands-on with your approach so far -- well done. It is also very clear the direction that the situation is headed and in case, you've already done the hardest part.
Continue with your massage, now just get very close and personal. Don't immediately head towards and focus on those "sensitive spots," but merely caress them as you pass by and continue with the massage. Once intentions are clear and desires are clearer, you can begin to gently focus on the money spots and insist that your partner does the same for you.
Play with each other passionately and really feel one another. If you continue to use any oils or lotions then more power to you and more power to your touches, as well. Caress one another with care and attention and feel the sexual bond created in that very moment. It is vital to keep in mind that romantic sex is about passion and appreciation for one another; lend a helping hand to your partner and find those spots they weren't even aware of, helping them learn more about themselves.
With romantic sex, climax is not always the ultimate goal. Don't worry, it is still essential and highly advised, but it shouldn't be your "go big or go home" scenario. The goal is to not make your partner orgasm as many times as possible, but, instead, feel every aspect -- every tingle and shot of ecstasy both physically and mentally -- of a passionate and meaningful effort to be pleased by one another.
To help with this, tease one another. Give them exactly what they want, and then take it away. Allow them to feel a mere moment of euphoria, only a glimpse of the potential energy that is waiting to be released from within them in all the right places, and then take it away. The slower, the better, too.
Talk to them. Ask them if that feels good, all while knowing from their wide open mouth and closed, yet wondering eyes that it definitely does. Ask them if they want more and give it to them before they even have a chance to answer -- the element of surprise is surely on your side with this one.
At this point, I assume things are ready for takeoff and all thrusters have been engaged. Before taking off and leaving nothing but hot and intense, flames in your path, trying heating up the engine slowly for an even more powerful and earth-shaking (or at least bed-shaking) takeoff.
If you possessed the self-control to tease your partner up to this point, then this is the perfect ending to start you on your way to really finishing. Once again, be gentle and passionate; feel every bit of one another and hold each other close, almost becoming one.
Once neither of you can wait any longer and you desperately seek to let loose on another, then, by all means, go for it. Remember to keep things romantic through the positions you choose and words you use. You're not making a porno that involves rough and vigorous sex, but instead, you're making love.
When things begin to slow down and you find the point where you two would usually find a mutual stopping point, continue to please your partner with a little after-play. Be gentle, as they are most likely very sensitive at this point, and be humble.
After-play can include anything from a gentle backscratch to sucking on her nipples, from dancing your fingers along the trace of their body to gifting them with oral pleasure; merely take a few extra steps to ensure your partner truly feels appreciated and taken care of.
If remaining physical after-the-fact isn't what you had in mind, then talk to your partner and tell them how beautiful they are. Express your love for them in the kindest and simplest of ways. No extravagant poem or sonnet is necessary -- merely list all of the reasons you love them and express how much you appreciate them and their love for you.
Sex is both a physically and mentally rewarding task and requires satisfaction in both to reach ultimate fulfillment sexually. Meaning that both the body and the mind need to be focused on and appreciated when expressing your love for your special person. After-play can include both these.
When things are said and done -- the fat lady as sung and a flock of pigs has been spotted over the California Coast -- continue to ly in bed with one another.
It is said that the very last bite of a meal determines whether a person will order it again or not. When it comes to a romantic night of sexual attention like this, I truly believe the same logic can be applied. How things are left said and done, how the vibe is resolved and the trance that one ensued your entire body begins to fade, is crucial to how the night will be ultimately remembered.
With that being said, you don't want to immediately jump out of bed and go turn on the T.V. or open up your laptop. Lay with one another and cuddle, talk about your lives and anything and everything. Simply, be, with one another.
One of my favorite ways to continue the overall vibe of affection and a night spent together is by taking a shower together. Chances are you are both sweaty and possibly covered in oils or lotions, so a shower is a perfect way to remain close and clean up in the process. Wash one another and playfully fight over the water; the shower is an excellent place to cool things off, with potential for them to heat up again for a brief moment.
You've killed it all night and every step has proved successful and rewarding -- not it's time to cap things off in style, with a nightcap and dessert.
If you planned ahead, then champagne (or more wine) and some type of chocolate would be ideal. If you really planned ahead, then chocolate-covered strawberries or a carton of ice cream can't be beaten.
Something alcoholic to drink and a flavorful, sweet treat after a romantic night of sexual pleasure are like the warm walk back to the car after a firework show. You're all cozy and warm in your blanket with your adrenaline still racing from the excitement that just ensued, and you're ready for the warm car ride home to only get there and immediately crawl into bed and pass out.
Romantic sex is one thing, but an entire night of romance from the very moment they walk through the door to the moment they shut their eyes upon their pillow is some next-level mastery that your partner will be day-dreaming about for weeks to come.